A Torn Person


“Forget the consequences and help those in need. Is it your place? Maybe not but why just sit by and watch someone suffer alone when you have a choice to help, the only person who can tell you to stop is the one you are trying to help”

 Watching someone smile can make all of our problems fade away because we begin to share their happiness but what happens when people are in pain? We run.

“Mia” had a happiness that resonated in me and brought pleasant memories back from the depths of my heart. Days passed and her happiness that she initially possessed seemed to fade from the seemingly controlling attitude of “Simon” became more apparent and the worst thing was her feelings for him were genuine and I could see it tearing into her and cracks were beginning to show which struck a very familiar cord.

Watching a close friend begin to descend into a place that I had watched someone else I cared deeply for was heart wrenching, speaking to “Mia” I offered my advice “you need to nip this in the bud sooner rather than later because it will only get worse trust me on this” I could see her mannerisms changing and she began to make small excuses and justify certain things she had told me that bothered her.

These admissions worried me it seemed she was thinking on pure emotion which would lead down a dark road taking her back to a place she had fought so hard to free herself from in a distant past before I knew her, I was not prepared to let a friend slip back into such a place.

Offering only my words and an ear to listen if needed I said to her “be careful because you are going down the same road as April did and latching onto the first person who you have feelings for  and you’re sacrificing yourself for only fleeting glimpses of happiness when you’re both together for endless hassle and questions when you’re apart” It might not have been my place to say such things but while love may indeed be blind it is not deaf perhaps a voice of concern and reason might help by giving her the strength to stand firm and make him accept he is a part of her life not her entire life.

After sitting and chatting for a few hours she had stayed strong with her decisions and wasn’t chasing him, as small a step as this might be it was a start.

Many people I see are ruled by their phones, constantly checking them every five seconds for a reply and when they see nothing madness descends causing distress, panic and anxiety because they think the fault is theirs. This is no way to live, life is about living in the here and now making choices, having fun, creating memories to look back on with a smile not a regret. After getting home I keep a small conversation going with “Mia” only to let her know that she is not alone, of all the people I know how she feels… torn.

Receiving several messages I read them and offer unbiased replies, they seemed like messages from a child who has not got his way and it reacting with anger until she crumbles under his pressure, perhaps it was because he cared or maybe because he was not used to people saying No.

“A second chance is a rare gift to give but it is ours to give and if you believe it is worth it then take the risk, we can forgive but never forget”