To be denied the things you want most is not life being unfair. It’s the result of the life you’ve lived so far. The people you’ve pushed away, the people you’ve hurt, the friends that got left behind, the paths and chances you never took. They’re all the reason you’re denied now.
It is tempting to mourn the loss we think we’re losing, but what is the loss of something we never had? Is it real loss or just the loss of an idea? Regardless of which it is you must remember that you never had it in the first place so you can’t let it consume you.
People will always miss wha they never had because they think it’s better than what they’ve currently got, even if it isn’t, that’s just how people work.